How to Read Women’s Flirting Gestures

When your eyes meet a woman you like in a crowded room, you’ll want to know what she thinks of you first! Luckily, it’s usually just a matter of being observant and you can tell if she likes you. Once the two of you start talking, there will be signals to let you know that she’s flirting and wants to get to know you better. However, it’s equally important to recognize the signs that she’s not interested in you; and that’s when you should withdraw.

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Watch for signs that she likes you

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Notice if her gaze wanders around the room. You may notice her glancing around the room for a few seconds but not really looking for anyone’s eyes, then she may glance quickly at you, sometimes just a sideways glance. This means that at least she’s interested in you. ^{[1] XResearch Source}

There are women who don’t want to be caught looking at someone, but there are women who dared to look for a few seconds intentionally. Either way, if you notice a woman looking at you that way over and over, she probably likes you.

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Notice if her gaze stays on you for a few seconds. If, while looking around the room and catching your eye, she stops for a moment, it means she still likes you. If you see her looking like that, smile to show that you’re interested in her too. ^{[2] XResearch Source}

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Pay attention to the gesture of tilting your head and flipping your hair. If she notices you, she may tilt her head back a little and look up. You can catch this gesture after she looks at you from across the room. Another sign is that she flips her hair or pushes it behind her back with one hand. ^{[3] XResearch Sources}

Women playing with their hair are usually a good sign.
Similarly, if she adjusts her clothes, such as smoothing her skirt, she may be sending a signal that she wants to talk to you.

Notice the signs that she flirts with you back

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Focus on her playful facial expression. If she’s always smiling when she hears you talk, chances are she’s interested and wants to continue the conversation. Most women won’t hesitate to frown or look bored if they don’t want to talk! ^{[7] XResearch Sources}

Laughter is also a good sign, especially if she laughs at your every joke.
Maybe she even winks at you.
If her cheeks are red, even better! ^{[8] XResearch Sources}

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Notice if she imitates your gestures. Once you’ve reached out and started a conversation with her, see how she reacts when you change positions. She may mimic your posture, such as crossing her legs, a signal that she has feelings for you. ^{[9] XResearch Source}

She didn’t even realize she was doing it!

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Pay attention to body contact. No, not talking about kissing here! Usually, when a woman touches your arm or shoulder it’s for attention or just to tease you a bit. Whenever she touches you, chances are she’s flirting with you. ^{[10] XResearch Source}

She may try to penetrate your space. If she seems to be standing or sitting too close to you, she’s probably flirting with you. She may lean towards you from time to time, too. ^{[11] XResearch Source}
If you like her, you can also do the same, such as gently touching her arm when you talk.

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Notice if she leans forward before talking. The more interested she is in you and the story you’re telling, the more she’ll be inclined to lean towards you. Usually she’ll just point her upper body forward slightly, like she’s trying to hear you better. ^{[12] XResearch Source}

If she leans forward, don’t back down. She wants to be closer to you!

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See if she nods when you talk. If she’s enjoying the conversation, she may nod from time to time to show that she’s listening. This isn’t exactly flirting, but it’s a good sign. ^{[13] XResearch Source}

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Notice her fidgeting gesture. Movements such as fidgeting with curls, fiddling with jewelry, or running your fingers around the rim of a glass of water often imply seduction. Slow and controlled movements are more likely to be flirtatious, while jerking or tapping gestures can indicate that she’s bored or disinterested. ^{[14] XResearch Source}

For example, the gesture of caressing her lips, neck, or collarbone could be a signal that she has feelings for you. She is drawing your attention to those areas unconsciously.
When a woman fiddles with the base of a wine glass or runs her fingers over the rim of a glass of water, she’s probably trying to get your attention.

Watch for signs that she’s not interested in you

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See if she looks all over the place but doesn’t look at you. A woman who has feelings for you may look around the room, but she will also peek at you and try not to get caught. If she’s always looking away, she’s probably not paying attention to you. ^{[17] XResearch Source}

See if her eyes are wide open. If not, she probably doesn’t like you.

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Pay attention to rigid body language. If she’s sitting up straight in her chair with her arms crossed, she’s probably not interested. Similarly, if she rests a hand on her chin and looks bored, it’s likely that she’s trying to politely withdraw. ^{[18] XResearch Sources}

Crossing her arms and turning her body away are also signs that she doesn’t care. ^{[19] XResearch Source}

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Notice if she frowns or suddenly stops smiling. Smiling is a sign of flirting, and vice versa: If she frowns or even just looks around the room with blank eyes, she probably doesn’t like you. You should leave if she doesn’t return your smile. ^{[20] XResearch Source}

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Notice if she refuses to have physical contact. If she pulls back when you touch her arm, it’s probably because she doesn’t want to be more intimate with you. Similarly, if you lean in to kiss her on the cheek but she reaches out her hand, this gesture shows that she just wants to be friends with you, or that she doesn’t like physical contact at all. ^{[21] XResearch Source}

You need to respect her boundaries. If she doesn’t seem interested, withdraw. Better yet, you should always ask before you want to hug someone. A simple “Can I hug you?” or “Do you mind if I kiss you?” will take you further.

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Believe when a woman says “no”. If she says ‘no’, don’t assume she’s doing well. Trust that she doesn’t want to get to know you and walk away. If you cross the line, you will only make her angry, not conquer her.

Maybe she didn’t say “no” but used another word to refuse. For example, she might say, “Thank you, but I’m waiting for a friend,” or “I don’t want to talk right now,” or “I have a boyfriend.”

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Withdraw politely. If you feel unwelcome, find a way to leave as soon as possible. Do not behave rudely; She’s not getting your attention anyway, and maybe she just wants to be undisturbed.

For example, you could say, “Okay, I see you’re busy, so I’ll say hi. Have a happy evening.”

Advice

If a business woman smiles and greets you at her workplace, don’t assume she likes you. It’s just her job!

Warning

Not all women use the same art of flirting equally.

Steps

Watch for signs that she likes you

Notice the signs that she flirts with you back

Watch for signs that she’s not interested in you

Advice

Warning

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