How to Deal with Bullies

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Bullies come in many forms and degrees. Over time, most of us, in childhood or as an adult, may have had to deal with a few bullies. Recent statistics show that one in four children is bullied from time to time. ^{[1] X Trusted Source HelpGuide Go to Source} At work, at home, in the military, in hospitals, even in nursing homes, bullying becomes an adult problem. We must deal with bullies with caution, and above all, such behavior must be stopped.

Table of Contents

Developing coping mechanisms

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Limit your response to bullying. Don’t show the bully that you’re hurting and that they’ve succeeded in influencing you; you just walk away, like you don’t care. Bullies gloat when they make others feel hurt or uncomfortable, so reacting to them is like encouraging them to move on. ^{[2] XResearch Source} Bullies love attention and the more distressed you are by their actions, the more interested they will be in doing so.

This tactic can be a double-edged sword, depending on the bully, so analyze the situation carefully. Some bullies feel safe torturing you (and they enjoy it, too) if they see you’re not suffering because of their actions.
You cannot reason with an ignorant person. Walk away dignified, saying you have better things to do. If this continues, stand up for yourself. And whether it goes on or not, stand up for those being bullied.

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Feel your inner strength. Each person has a power nurtured within them. The problem is that a lot of bullies try to make you believe that you don’t have that power, and that you are a coward. That’s not right. Be on the lookout for actions that will intentionally bring you down and make you feel weak.

Sometimes we think they can take away all our values. Believe that we are stronger than them, because after all, you are “stronger” than them and will forever be stronger than them.

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Avoid meeting the bully. Try to avoid them at school or in social situations. If they’re on the same path as you, go the other way; If they can’t see you, they can’t bully you. Avoid seeing them as much as you can, but don’t let them see it. They’ll assume you’re scared and they’ve succeeded, and as a result, they’ll push harder.

Always go with a friend; Crowds are always safer. Most bullies will get discouraged if their fellow bullies aren’t around. They don’t want to get into trouble, and if you have friends around, the bully won’t dare do anything.

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Don’t sacrifice yourself as a joke to try to prove that there’s nothing the bully can do to make you miserable. This only amuses the bully, who will often add mockery and insults to lower your self-esteem. Doing so means that you and your goal of being yourself are being brought down to their level.

There’s nothing funny about bullying, and agreeing to jokes, whether directed at you or someone else, is making matters worse. Jokes are not appropriate in this situation. While it appears to be easing tension, it’s actually just adding fuel to the fire.

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Respond to insults to the bully in a “smashing his back” style. If successful in public, this will cause laughter from the people around, making the bully humiliated. It’s a bully’s worst nightmare because they’ve been ousted from a position of authority over you. Remember not to give the bully the attention they want, as this will make them even more interested in hurting other people’s feelings.

Avoid humiliating the bully if they have physically bullied you in the past, as this will incite a fight you can’t win. Instead of making the situation worse, leave the place. Tell the authorities if you see danger.

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Be wiser than the bully. Bullies are not very smart and sharp, so you can take advantage of this. Here are a few ideas:

Laugh at everything they say, and the heavier the insult, the louder you should laugh. Try to think of it as something really funny. This is certainly frustrating for the bully because they want you to cry, not laugh.
Shout out loud to the bully for a quote. You should try this only if they step on your toes, they are generally non-verbal harassment. There are many good sentences for you to read, for example the first sentence in Kieu story, the songs are almost forgotten, or you can come up with your own one (I want a dollar to buy one). fish!”). In this case, randomness is key. The bully can be so shocked that you can cause laughter, or at least get away. And if they think you’re crazy, that’s fine too!

Create your own power

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Learn kungfu. You can choose from Karate, Kung Fu, Taekwondo, Judo or similar subjects. Learning martial arts will help you gain more confidence, strengthen your physical strength, have more self-defense skills and the ability to win in each fight. Bullies love to hunt prey they perceive as weaker than themselves, so putting on a strong appearance can discourage them. Martial arts skills also help you know how to show that you are not an easy target.

You don’t have to look like a warrior. Just be frank and resolute, as if to say “don’t touch me”. You’re better off fighting without actually fighting than getting beaten up and wishing you knew how to defend yourself.

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Be smart and know everything. Explore your surroundings for possible exits, hangouts, conflict zones, safe zones, and boundaries. Be aware of the bully’s pattern, including possible links, as most bullies have a bunch of followers. Knowing your enemies and your surroundings can help when you’re in hiding, but most importantly, when you’re going head-to-head. ^{[3] XResearch Sources}

Confident when walking. Walk with intentional confidence and a “dare you to touch me” attitude. Hold your head high, look straight ahead, where you’re headed, and use your broad vision to recognize those around you. No matter how fake it feels, be confident and proud. Everyone will feel confused.

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Learn some self-defense moves. This is very important if you have to fight (hopefully you don’t get into this situation). You don’t have to be a black belt, just a few self-defense tips. Defend yourself with all your might and without hesitation.

A sudden kick to the groin can make an opponent feel numb and confused for a while long enough for you to run away. Bullies are not used to others having an advantage over them.
If kicking in the groin doesn’t work, try kicking the abdomen (just below the ribs), or kicking the knee to bring the opponent to the knees.
If the bully grabs you or presses you, believe it or not, this is again to your advantage. Trying to keep balance, grab one of their arms with your left hand and hit the elbow with the other, then slap the other arm with your other hand.
And as soon as you have the opportunity, run to a safe place and call for help.

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Be aware of yourself (and know how good you are). Understand your strengths, weaknesses, and goals. Confidence will help you when dealing with verbal bullies, as their insults won’t reach your heart. Verbal bullies need multiple listeners to spread insults, and their statements are often not based on facts but simply lies.

Try to get over the rumors: tell people it’s not true and that the bully just wants attention. Spin the arrow backwards on them. Point out their bullying habits, show everyone how upset and insecure the bully is to talk bad about others.
The insults and the way the person treats you doesn’t reflect the truth, doesn’t affect you, but says it all about them. It shows how insecure and upset they are. If there is nothing left to bully you on, they will move on to another target.

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Do not try to bully back. You certainly don’t want to put yourself on the same level as the bully. You absolutely should point out why they bully and find holes in their argument, but you definitely should never behave like them. That only empowers them. It just makes you as bad as them.

And if you do, you’ll be in trouble just like them. If things go awry and the authorities have to step in, no one knows who the real bully is.

Prevent Bullying

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Identify the types of bullying you and others are facing. There are many forms of bullying; Some are physically intrusive, others verbally abusive, while some use tricks to play with your feelings. Many bullies combine the above tactics. Either way, identification will help you understand the tactics the bully uses.

Does that person abuse your body? Aggressive bullies love to hit, punch, kick, and pull their hair. They will act without hesitation. It’s impossible to fight with this type of bully, they’ll either blame you or cry out that they’re hurt and you’re the one to blame.
Is that person a person who curses and insults you with words? Stinging bullies are verbal abuse (cursing, mocking, teasing, etc.). ^{[4] XResearch Sources}
Does that person pretend to be close to you, but then suddenly make fun of you in front of others? This is just emotional bullying. Other types of bullying include threatening to harm or destroy things you hold dear, doing things that make you laugh (like putting a “kicking me” note behind your back), or telling lies. lie about you to try to make people hate you. Indirect bullies, sometimes called “backstabbers” or gossipers, often separate the victim from the group and attack whenever the opportunity arises.

Understand what “bullying” is

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Understand what “bullying” is. Correctly identifying bullying behavior is important to avoid labeling every negative social response as bullying, as conflicts have nothing to do with bullying and can be a sign of a relationship. normal, healthy. Bullying is unwanted, aggressive behavior that involves an actual imbalance or imbalance in perceived power. This behavior is often repetitive, or likely to be repeated over time. Both the bully and the victim can have serious and persistent problems.

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Realize that the bully’s actions probably have nothing to do with you. The bully may be facing some personal issue in their life, so they need to vent or vent their sadness on something, and unfortunately, that’s you. Don’t assume that you are the cause because you are most likely not what the bully is aiming for at all.

Advice

Don’t pay attention to anything the bully says. It’s not worth your tears! Don’t let their words stop you from achieving your goals! Be confident, and show the bully they can’t influence you.
Some bullies may just be jealous of you. They bully you just because you have some talent they don’t, so be proud of what you’re doing. Cursing is no fun. In fact, the root cause of bullies is that they don’t do what you can brilliantly do.
Currently, schools are not an effective place to deal with bullying. You must provide proof (and most people cannot provide evidence of emotional bullying). And remember that bullies can always lie or find false witnesses on their side. Tell your parents first and then tell the school administration.
Stay calm at all times, as this will confuse and frustrate a bully because of their desire to cause a negative reaction.
Think hard and consider everything that might make the bully unhappy. Maybe they are unwell, have few friends, or are afraid of something. Then consider which of them you belong to, maybe they are jealous because you have an advantage over them. Use this knowledge to ease the situation by avoiding such topics when you are around them, or when you are upset, remember all the things you are better than them.
If your school does not address reported bullying, convince your parents to transfer you to a private or charter school, where the bully may be expelled or suspended.
If you are being bullied online, take pictures of their harassment as evidence, report the bullying, block them, and have the courage to tell others that this person has bullied you online.
You may worry that the bully will get angry if you tell others, but in the long run it’s best to do so. If you let someone step on you, they will step on you forever!
Don’t let the bully see you cry. If they see you reacting like that, they will bully you even more.
If they just annoy you without harming you, don’t be rough with them or try to get along with them. If you yell at them, you may be seen as a problem person, but being close to them can lead to many other problems.
Never keep it a secret – that will only make the situation worse.
If you’re not a confident person, do your best to stand up to the bully. Once you get through one, you’ll be much more confident and will be able to stand up to others as well.

Warning

If the bully is an adult or an adult and they are threatening or hurting you, this behavior is called abuse. Tell someone right away, or call the police (113).
Every bully is different. Some bullies continue to bully you even though you’ve shown you don’t care what they think of you, so you need to let your teacher know about it.
Tell the person in authority (teachers, police, adults) and keep talking until people listen to you. Yes, ignoring is a great way to deal with bullying, but making your voice heard is still better.
Many children are taught that bullies won’t cause physical harm if they just make fun of you. This is not always the case, and it always has the potential for escalation. Be careful around the bully, always be in public places or places (especially those in authority) when the bully makes fun of you.
Again, don’t mind what they say about you. Also don’t be fooled. If they try to be nice to you and they seem sincere, give them a chance. But if they seem like they’re faking it, just ignore it.
Don’t fight the bully.
Don’t get in the way of the bully.

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